My name is Andrea and my husband and I just celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary. After getting married in 2012, we rented 2 town homes, and 1 condo before we had to make the hard decision to move back home. We were struggling financially and decided to move in with my parents so we could pay off debt, save money, and get back on our feet. My husband lost his job during our first couple years of marriage. Then I lost my job in 2019. We had only planned to stay at my parents 1 year, but it turned in to 3+. I am so grateful my family welcomed us home, helped us through our struggles, and showed us grace.
In the 3ish years we've lived with my parents, we've had to say good bye to my Uncle who lost his battle to cancer, and my aunt who lost her battle to lymphedema. It felt like there was no light in our lives, one tragedy after the other, and then we had to put my grandma in a nursing home on top of it. Through it all, though, us 4 adults living together has definitely brought us closer, and it's clear that God used this chapter in our lives to change us all, for the better.
There's definitely been a silver lining to this all, and I think God knew "home" was exactly where I needed to be to get through these trials. Even though I lost my job, because we lived with my parents, we survived. If we had still be renting, we wouldn't have been able to pay rent. So I look back on the past 3 1/2 years and smile because I can see how much God has done in our life, marriage, and family.
We were able to pay off credit card debt, and focus on our health- mentally & physically. I have lost almost 100 lbs and still have a ways to go, but for the 1st time in my life, I believe it's possible. When our world was falling apart and our future didn't look possible, it was hard to think about us ever buying a house. But, I'm so proud to say we've made it. We are purchasing our very first home! Our dreams are coming true and we are so thankful for this new chapter of our story.
About a year ago, though, we began an unexpected infertility journey. It's been a heart-wrenching year, and my husband will be undergoing surgery on 12/21 right before Christmas. We currently have over $5,000 in medical bills and a lot more in our future. We know God has led us to this home, and we are beyond ecstatic. However, we're trying to be smart, and not get ourselves in debt again. We've learned from our mistakes. We don't have credit cards, and don't want them. We want to start fresh- in our 1st home, and pray that God blesses us with at least 1 child. It's really sad to think that we may not be able to fill our new home with children, but until a doctor tells us there is 0% chance, we will hold on to hope.
In the meantime we are focusing on the positive- and buying our 1st home has brought life back to our souls. I haven't seen my husband so excited about something in ages. I can't remember the last time I saw him so full of joy. It's refreshing to have something positive to look forward to, amidst a gut-wrenching infertility journey. I came across this site as I was researching grants and home improvement funding. I prayed about it, and thought it was worth a shot.
Although the world is filled with a lot of terrible and negative things, I do believe there are still a lot of kind, generous people out there. We literally have NO furniture. Just our bedroom set. We would so appreciate any help in furnishing our new home. More importantly, the home has plumbing and electrical that is not up to code. It needs new windows, too, which is very costly. If you have $1 to share, or $100, if God has blessed you financially, and can find it in your heart to help us, we would be forever grateful.
From the bottom of our hearts, THANK YOU!